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Rather than feeling objectified by men at straight bars, go-go dancers at the Stonewall Inn find something empowering about dancing for other women. She pulls a pair of fishnet tights out of her bag.
Caitlyn Seitz, who is maneuvering into fishnets in front of me, has been dancing here for the last three years, hyping up a largely gay-girl crowd at the popular Friday night Lesbo-a-Go-Go parties. And yet, when a woman dances provocatively for other women — when you have lesbians exercising a female gaze — it intuitively feels far more equitable than a woman dancing for men.
But is that really the case?
First, however, some go-go dancing The most important takeaway of which is this: go-go dancing is not stripping. Your job is to get people energized and dancing and, in exchange, they might tip you, tucking dollar bills into your extra-minimal clothing.
Caitlyn makes a decent amount of money: Stonewall pays a flat fee for her performances, and she can keep her tips. When the year-old moved to New York from Ohio after college, she started looking for go-go gigs because she thought the experience would hone her performance skills and help her singing career she performs under the name Caiikie.
She auditioned at some straight bars but ended up leaving midway through the process. I was looking to move around and make people excited to dance. Then, one Friday night, Caitlyn was out at Stonewall with some friends.
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She was having a good time and found herself, as one does, up on stage under the spotlights, dancing in front on an appreciative crowd. The DJ is now her girlfriend. So are you a lesbian then?
I ask Caitlyn. Caitlyn is of the same mind.
There is this stereotype of lesbians as carpenters just walking through the streets of New York City with their toolbelts on. Caitlyn is telling me this as she stands in front of the mirror, putting the final touches to her outfit — black fishnets, a black crop-top, black lace panties, and black boots. If the crowd tips well, she rewards them by taking more clothes off.
Not physically comfortable, but emotionally comfortable.
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Has she ever felt objectified or violated? I feel like this interview has been a little too Kumbaya-My-Friend so far, and there must be some sort of gritty sex scandal I can uncover.
But it seems that women are, for the most part, fairly well behaved. I feel empowered and excited because I get to express myself. At that moment the door to the changing room swings open, and the other dancer performing that night walks in. Crystelle, 26, just started dancing at Stonewall recently, she also go-go dances at a straight bar in Brooklyn.
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Like Caitlyn she prefers not to define as gay or straight; however she is currently in a heterosexual relationship and has never dated a woman. The big difference between dancing for men versus dancing for women, Crystelle finds, is confidence. A lot. The gay world is more accepting. The flip-side, however, is that she finds that women are far less confident than men when it comes to approaching her and tipping her.
I ask them. Lesbian go-go dancing: subverting the gaze one sexy step at a time.
Arwa Mahdawi. Tue 21 Apr Topics Sex Gender Women features. Reuse this content.