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Great Work! We have received your article and we look forward to publishing it. Click on the confirmation link that we sent you. Since the breakup and maybe even a little before, your ex has done a from the kind, gentle and sweet guy that you thought you knew. If he was Dr. Jekyll, he is now Mr.
By Chris Seiter. So, automatically that means that every little thing that an ex boyfriend does is going to be dissected and taken personally. If he does something good that will benefit you it is likely that your heart is going to race with excitement. In other words, if an ex boyfriend is acting like a jerk this guide is going to attempt to explain why. How is it going to do that? Well, once again I am going to attempt to expand your knowledge on the male mind and dive into the reasoning behind these jerk-like acts that your ex boyfriend keeps engaging in.
You have two people of the opposite sex. Each has their own unique ideas about how to approach life. Each has their own idea of how a relationship is supposed to work. Yet, neither person can truly control the other person. So, lets say for a moment that you and your ex boyfriend get back together. You are in a relationship and are quite happy. The only problem is that neither of your ideas on how to treat each other match up. If you sprinkle in the fact that neither or you can truly control each other all sorts of wacky things can start to happen. You have to admit that it is a little comical but I feel there is a hint of truth to this view when it comes to jerk behavior.
No matter what, no two human beings are going to think exactly alike. We all have our individual views on how relationships should be treated but these individual views can sometimes make it hard to pin down exactly what a jerk is.
Why your ex boyfriend acts like a jerk
In this case it is probably best to view a jerk by looking at what society collectively considers to be a jerk this way both views are taken into both men and women. Societal jerk-like behavior includes things like cheating, saying hurtful things that are uncalled for and overreacting over ridiculous things. Of course, this guide is unique in and of itself because it is not studying men as a whole.
Instead, it is studying only a certain segment of men, the ex boyfriend. Luckily, I am a man and I have also been an ex boyfriend who remembers almost all of the thoughts that went through my jerk during my past relationships. So, I can literally give you an entirely unique perspective at why I acted like a jerk in my relationships which if I am being honest… I was one. However, what I can give you access to is all of the thoughts that went through my head which is really want you want anyways, right? Take the quiz.
Understanding why an ex boyfriend is a jerk is not generally an easy thing to grasp. Doing so requires you to take a trip into the mind of a man and that is not always a fun place to be. I wanted to start off with this behavior because it is likely that this is something you have experienced for yourself. Imagine for a moment that you and I jerk and broke up. Of course, you being the amazing person that you are you offer to remain friends with me and I angrily decline your offer.
Every time you attempt to talk to me I say something that sets you off and then you say something in return that really sets me off and before you know it we are both having a full fledged argument. Did you find yourself wondering why I chose that fake example above? You know, the one where you and I dated and we both argued every time we talked after a breakup. Well, truthfully this is an example from my own life. I once reacted like this after a breakup and I am about to lay some shocking knowledge down for you. At the time a lot was going through my head. It has been about five years since that particular incident has occurred so I have had a lot of time to reflect on exactly what I was feeling.
The truth was that it all boiled down to maturity or a lack of it. For some reason fighting gave me this sense of control. I had lost control of the relationship and viewed myself as a failure. Even now when I look back at some of the mistakes I made I cringe and I feel like I was a completely different person. I think at the time I even knew that. Thus, I would find a way to fight with my ex even when she was just trying to be nice and check up on me.
Sure, I was definitely in the wrong with how I acted during the breakup but it allowed me to truly be honest with myself and make some major changes in my life. I actually love talking about this particular type of behavior because it is going to really address one of your greatest fears, having your ex look at other women or go on the rebound after your relationship. Well, during your relationship with your ex boyfriend were you constantly catching him check out other women? After your breakup is he constantly talking to other women or perhaps even dating them?
Many women will rally by your side if your ex does this and label him a jerk but I am not so sure that is the case. The first thing I want to tackle here is that there is a difference between looking at other women casually and looking at them and aggressively pursuing them.
Do you ever regret being a jerk to an ex girlfriend and how long did it take you to realise?
While this may make relationships a lot easier and put me out of a job real life is different. Heck, he may even fantasize about her.
This is a normal thing for men. One of the things that I am most proud of about myself is the fact that I am loyal to a fault. You show me the most loyal boyfriend on earth and I bet I am more loyal than him in a relationship. However, I am a human male and I am not afraid to admit that I look at other women when I am in a relationship.
No, I would talk to her and be friendly. If this beautiful woman were to hit on me I would feel very flattered and maybe even blush a little bit.
Has anyone else’s ex become a complete jerk after the breakup?
Deciphering if a boyfriend or ex boyfriend is a jerk will require you to study how they approach this very situation. If a beautiful woman is literally throwing herself at your boyfriend would he have the will power to put a stop to it? Furthermore, a man who is a jerk might even pursue a beautiful woman if shes not throwing herself at him. Why would he do that? You and your ex have just broken up and now he is off talking to ten other girls at the same time. Sure, you are incredibly angry with the breakup and you have called him every mean name you can think of in your head but should he really be considered a jerk?
This is an interesting question because technically right now you and your ex boyfriend are broken up.
Why is my ex-boyfriend acting like a jerk? (here are the reasons…)
The two of you are broken up remember? However, there is a way that a man can be a jerk when it comes to other women after your relationship ends. You found this website so I am just going to assume that you are interested in your ex boyfriend in some way shape or form.
Now, I want you to imagine for a moment that after your breakup your ex boyfriend starts meeting and talking to all these other beautiful women. In fact, it starts getting so ridiculous that you have a sneaking suspicion that he is talking to these other women as a way to upset you. Essentially he is flaunting his interactions with the other girls at you as a way to get a rise out of you.
I know that may be shocking to you when his actions seem to say otherwise but lets take a moment and look at things from his perspective. No matter how toxic the relationship a breakup usually hurts both parties involved in some way shape or form.
I can tell you that a guy is going to usually react in many different ways to a breakup. I would like to study two of those ways right now. For some reason when I picture this breakup outcome in my head I am picturing something like this:. Essentially an ex boyfriend who reacts this way will think the world has ended and not do anything to improve his situation.
This type of breakup reaction from an ex boyfriend usually means the chances of him wanting you back is going to be increase because lets be honest…. One reaction that men have to breakups is the fact that they look to fill the pain by talking to other people, other women in particular. I remember after one of my breakups I actually looked for other girls to talk to. However, I knew that if I got some type of interaction with the opposite sex and just got this feeling of being wanted by them it would make me feel better.
So, since I felt really down I started looking for other sources outside of my own internal circle to tell me that they liked me and cared for me. I am not saying it is morally right but I figure if I opened up and told you a little about my experience it might make a few light bulbs go off for your situation.
However, it may be entirely possible that your ex will start dating one of these girls. Usually when women ask me about this situation I sternly tell them to read my rebound relationship. However, I want to do something a little bit different this time around.
I am going to tell you what you really want to know.
During your relationship with your ex boyfriend you set a certain standard. Every other girl he meets or takes on a date is going to be compared to this standard. The only way that your ex boyfriend will take another girlfriend is if he thinks that she beats the standard you set.
Reasons your ex turned into a jerk after you broke up
So, if he dates her and determines that the standard she sets is better than the standard you set then they will probably have a longer relationship than you might expect. Of course, if the standard the new girl sets is not anywhere close to yours then sooner or later he will come to his senses, trust me!
Except this time there is a pretty clever twist.